A collection of resources for Christian women living in, escaping, or recovering from abusive relationships.
Along with resources for their friends, counselors and pastors.

Christian women face unique challenges when dealing with abusive relationships. Our spiritual instincts bid us to find help from our church body. Unfortunately, the church and its leaders often know little about domestic abuse, and their well-intentioned advice often prolongs or worsens the abuse.

The Reverend Al Miles, author of "Domestic Violence: What Every Pastor Needs to Know," says that almost none of the 158 pastors he interviewed for his book had any training in dealing with domestic violence. According to Miles, one of the most pervasive myths believed by pastors is that "Christian survivors need only faith, prayer, a positive attitude, and God to be freed from domestic violence."

When victims hear this attitude, they naturally blame themselves for the continuing abuse and violence in their relationships. We come to believe that if we were only more spiritual, the violence would end. Unfortunately, domestic violence seldom ends this way.

Domestic violence isn't just physical violence. Verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual and financial abuse are also violent. Many victims report that emotional and verbal abuse are the hardest forms of abuse to recover from.

Help is available. Please reach out for it.

A special selection of books for women, pastors and counselors, and friends of abuse victims can bring understanding and skills to help you end the abuse in your life.

Domestic Violence Agencies can get you started today, stopping the abuse in your life. These agencies offer experience, empathy, and trained counselors, usually at no charge.

Our Questionnaires can help you evaluate your risk and the level of your abuse.

A special selection of Frequently Asked Questions can help you begin to understand the truth about domestic violence in Christian families.

Prose and Poetry, because it helps to talk about it. I'd sure love to have some more to post here.